These words have been sinking into my soul, and even manifesting in a physical way lately as my daughters are becoming little artists--they seem to be just as addicted as I am to paper and pens and paint--and as I let go a little and begin truly to take joy in the messes of raising children:
"Imagine that Eowyn and Penny are your watercolors and you alone have the delightful privilege of splashing their beauty across a crisp piece of paper--across another new day.
"Though you may have to apply some wax, here and there, to guide them to where it is safe to go, to give boundaries to their vibrancy, you are skilled in art and know how to stroke them into the place where they are free to find shape and blend and contrast together--to become who God has made them to be.
"As any good artist knows, it is okay to sometimes get messy, to get down and into your painting, to play with, to enjoy the touch of your colors. The fact that watercolors and wax and crisp heavy paper requires preparation and clean up doesn't anger you or make you sigh--it is just another part of the process, a simple reality of life.
"Sometimes a painting can become overworked--it is necessary to stop and find a new perspective. Perhaps inquire after another artist, or the Artist, for wisdom for how to continue on. His solution may be found only after some painful scraping away of layers--of emotions and old ways--but the end result, the final painting, is worth the energy and pain.
You are in the process of transforming the individual beauty of each color--of each daughter--into a larger beauty of a cohesive, complete painting--'A Schilling Life.'" --K.G.L.
Thank you, my friend, for these beautiful words of wisdom! And thank you for allowing me to share them here. This is a great way to look at parenting and all sorts of other relationships too. I have a feeling that this will resonate with lots of creative people who pour themselves into their family and friends!